LARRY BRUDZYNSKI Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Well guys I have been thinking about trying the marriage thing again....This will make the 3rd time I jump into to the devils pit of life....I'm really on the edge about doing it again....Anyone that has been here knows what I went thru with the last one...SCARY.... This lady is special....Her name is Linda and has 2 teenage sons 13,17. Dillon and David, they are great kids. Teenagers again, pain in the ass but cool. I figured I already raised my kids,(kind of) but what the hell.....Dillon is a sports kid, David is into games and a lot of thinking things..... Linda is a mostly non-drinker. She puts up with my shit and lets me know if I get a little out of sorts. I'm getting older and a little crankier with things. David and I have a lot to talk about,and likes computer games as I do, we hit it off pretty well. Dillon and I agree on Nascar being the best sport of all times. He loves Jeff(24) and I'm the Dale Jr.(88) guy. It's always a good competition here with these 2 kids. Linda and I have talked about being together more than just dating and I'm finding myself thinking more and more about it. This is a really good fit but I'm scared it will change if i/we change how it is right now..... Am I scared???? Yep I sure am.... Do I love Linda and her boys??? I sure do.... Should I wait??? I don't know....But it really feels right and We have been together for 2 years and feels right. This is the closest I have been to having a real family for a long time. What do you guy's think?????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DwayneGorniak Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Have you two talked about moving in together first and possibly living together before you try out the marriage thing again? Has she hinted toward marriage at all or just being together more? Them females is a a hard species to read. Me and my ole' lady were together for nine years before we got married last January. We were actually really good friends for thirteen years before we even got together. Just had our first year anniversary. Feels good. I figured after that many years of getting the milk for free, it was time to finally buy the cow. But it took me eight years to finally feel comfortable enough to ask the question. It just felt so damned good living together the way we were. She was always my wife to me anyway. It never felt any different than that. Now there's just those three extra little pieces of gold and diamonds on her finger. I imagine you will be seeing a two or three page reply from Jim soon enough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LARRY BRUDZYNSKI Posted March 6, 2010 Author Share Posted March 6, 2010 Yeah Dwayne, I have known Linda for a very long time and I know what your saying. As for Jim, he's been one of the lucky ones that got together with his misses as did my my dad. Me wrong place wrong time, me now right place right time. He was lucky and I appreciate what he has done with his wife and kids. I just wish I could be that lucky and will be in time. Hey all forgot to mention.....My son Sean, the one I found and he found me is having his second child very soon. It's going to be a girl(kristyn). That will be 2 grandkids now. God I feel fuckin old!!!!(Linda says because I am)!!!!! I'm as old as I feel and I'm only 42 years young!!!!I feel fuckin great!!!!Smoke like a chimmney and drink like a fish, I must be Canudian!!! Thanks mom!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Warman Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 37 years.... and it has been anything but a bed of roses. But, life's a bitch and then you die. And I wouldn't trade it for the world. I haven't been "lucky"... Being married is a job..... and it can be, at times, the toughest job you will ever have. Marriage isn't about what you get out of the relationship - it is about what you are willing to invest in it. "Until death do us part" indicated some kind of permanence and it get's me through some of the rocky shit..... Listen to me telling you that there are rocky parts to a relationship this close... Through the 90's, my loving brides Crohns disease had me doing stuff that I pray to God none of you ever have to endure... it tested my mettle to near breaking point. I would wake up most mornings dreading the day ahead. Neither one of us is the ideal partner... but, through hard work and determination, we persevere. Heavy on the hard work and dertmination... OTOH, our son and his girlfriend have been living together for almost 6 years.... and he is only 22. Marriage has never been a subject as far as I know and Kelli is as much family as she could ever be. I don't want to sound like a wet blanket, but I recall a story about a man that would purposely hit his thumb with a hammer... He was asked "Why do you do that?". His reply.... "Because it feels so good when I stop.....". There comes a time in every relationship when the passion becomes fleeting. A time when our partner stops being an object of lust... You are about to embark upon a big journey... but you know that. Used to be people would work through the rocky parts. But even "back in the day", some folks would confuse "marriage certificate" with "bill of sale". Larry - if your "big head" is getting married, I congratulate you. If this is all about your "little head".... well, I don't need to get you pissed at me. Answer me this..... who is your best friend in the whole world? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LARRY BRUDZYNSKI Posted March 9, 2010 Author Share Posted March 9, 2010 Answer me this..... who is your best friend in the whole world? Jim, It's funny you asked me this because my mum asked me the same thing, and I couldn't answer it at the time. My mum had gave me some really good advice..... If you don't like yourself and feel good about yourself then how can you share your life with anyone else. I was okay with her response at the time but really didn't get it thru my thick skull. I have since watched my brother and mother pass and really didn't understand it until my mum was gone. I realized that I am my own best friend. I have come to grips with accepting the fact that shit really does happen and there is nothing I can do about it. I don't make mistakes I Fuck UP. I try to learn from them and move on. As for my best friend next to me, Linda is. I wake up everyday enjoying life and ready to take on what comes next. In the last 2 years I have become stronger and more of a pain in the ass at the same time. I appreciate the comments and have decided to wait longer before taking the next step. Thanks guy's!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mekanik Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 READ MY SIGNATURE!!!! Seriously, I will be married ten years this November. Being married isn't easy, being happily married, and making sure my kids live in a pleasant environment is probably the toughest thing I have ever done in my life. There are a lot of people we know that think that me and my wife have a perfect marriage but I assure you, NOTHING in life is perfect. Larry if you decide that you’re going to marry this woman, then I wish you the best of luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Browning Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 I proposed on the spur of the moment to my wife at a wedding where we caught the garter/bouquet and I borrowed a ring. We had discussed marriage and it was only a matter of time any way. My dad told me that if you wait for the right moment it will likely never come. I think that can also be said for waiting for things to be perfect... the fact that you are thinking about it is a sign in my opinion. Good luck to you whatever you decide my friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DwayneGorniak Posted March 10, 2010 Share Posted March 10, 2010 Good luck to ya Larry on whatever your next step is. One thing I should have mentioned is to make sure you and the Mrs. communicate properly. That's what I was getting at when I said that them females is a hard species to read. They sometimes send mixed messages and you have to pry the fucking meaning of their madness out of those messages even if you have to tell them to speak perfectly clear fucking English. I became an asshole after my Ex-waste of skin had her way with me. But I find that it is better being a truthful asshole. When my ole' lady is giving me mixed messages, I literally tell her to speak fucking English because I don't have a crystal ball up my ass and even if I did I still wouldn't know how to read it anyway. She then makes things clear for me and this new wonderful asshole system just seems to work really well for me. I'm not telling you to be an asshole though, but it just works really well for me. When we got together ten years ago, I told her: I love her for who she is and don't want her change and that this is who I am and who I will be and the way I will be for the rest of my life and if you don't like it, there's the fucking door! Here we are ten years later after living together for ten years and being married for the last year and I love every minute of it. Oh yeah, and PMS=Psychotic Menstrual Syndrome or Mad Cow Disease. That's the weak I stay in the damned garage and tell her to stay away from me for a weak. LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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